Men and Matrimon(e)y ~
The Wedding Woes
So I'm in that phase of my life where everyone around me is either engaged or
walking towards the aisle. Some high school friends are already married.
Colleagues discuss wedding preparations and my parents don't miss an
opportunity to tell me how important it is to get married to the right guy
(read Mr Moneybags) at the right time. My grandma keeps reiterating how this
girl got married to a 15 lakh package and that girl got married to 5 lakh
package. My mother gets into long conversations with her mother meanwhile I
silently plug in my earphones and listen to Skrillex.
Amidst all the drama, I sit back and enjoy the
show. Most girls eagerly look forward to their big day and guys simply
can’t fathom why.
So when a girl is *ahem* eligible for marriage, what are
the men in her life thinking?
The Father
(If not all then most) Indian Dads think any guy who talks to his daughter wants
to take advantage of her. SO typically she is told to stay away from
these notorious creatures. The urban social girl listens but seldom obeys.
After the girl is 15 years old, the father slowly gets into statistics.
"When my daughter is 25, I would be nearing retirement. So I should save
this percentage of my annual income, invest them in bonds to avoid issues
later." They often believe it is their duty to 'find' a suitable match, an
engineer or architect maybe. (Read suitable as financially stable)
The concept ‘Match Made in Heaven’ often translates to ‘Match Made by
Parents’. If something doesn’t click on ground, there is always
Matrimony.com right? They would trust a
stranger from the virtual world rather than their own daughter. How progressive!
On the other hand, I’ve seen Dads who are more at ease
about the entire process. They give society-talk less importance than their
daughters. Marriage is a life-changing event after all.
Why not trust the ‘old-enough’ daughter’s judgment?
*more men to be featured soon on the series*
