The Dormant and The Dominant

So I've been closely looking at people these days- couples holding hands, parents, siblings and friends. No two people are the same, so what makes them tick together?

At a boys night-out, why does one outshine the rest and another tries to be the witty clown? Why really good-looking girlfriends secretly envy each other and only pretend to be friends? Why does only one member in a family revolt and becomes a black sheep? Why not the others?

But somehow in the midst of every emotion and experience we always find certain people who are inseparable without each other. Like Lauren and Hardy, Lily and Marshal, Tin Tin and Snowy the dog to name a few fictitious personalities.  No really, you will find people who just meet and hit off instantly.

When they say 'opposites attract', does it mean something? Can two like minded people really get along? I'm sure similar mindset would work for an office group or certain circle of friends but when in comes to long-lasting bonds, I somehow feel that we all need a bit of friction to keep our feet rooted.

I wouldn't really enjoy watching two people Tango without any spark and friction.

I don't know much about psychology but I'd like to think that in every relationship you will find a dormant personality and a dominant one.
Personally, I feel this difference is essential because the whole idea of getting to know someone new and unlike you is really exciting and being with someone who is exactly like you might just bore or frustrate you depending on what personality you are.

The Dominant person is usually egotistic, possessive, sometimes passive-aggressive and apathetic too at times.

The Dormant personality is easy-going, emotional, caring, gets attached easily, selfless, secretive, optimistic and sometimes a loner too. They absolutely detest fights and arguments. 

The Dormant thrives on the support of the other and The Dominant loves it but hates to show it.

Usually, such a relationship is extravagant and beautiful when all communication barriers have been sorted out and difference of opinions overlooked. But sometimes one of the personalities becomes too demanding and relationship gets a bit lop-sided. The Dormant seeks too much attention or Dominant shows too much indifference. When negative qualities of either one of them become too overtly, so much as it starts affecting the other; the relationship then becomes dysfunctional.

Normally personalities that can still somehow stand each other in any circle follow this order:

• Dormant-Dormant
• Dormant-Dominant
• Dominant-Dominant

Its just how in a relation no two people can be 'takers' while it may work when both are 'givers' or when one is 'giver' the other is 'taker'

Choices and Bad Memories

The red pill and blue pill signify the choice between blissful ignorance and painful reality.

But what happens after you make that choice and realize its the wrong one for you. Not everyone can accept ignorance or welcome reality.

It’s hard to say if you can put an experience behind and say “what the hell, its ok” even when its not and you realize the wormhole was actually a one way street, and you can’t go back. You soothe yourself convincingly and think it was nice while it lasted, it was all for the best, yea right, of course it was.

When you take on a journey, you know you are going to take back some memories with you in form of memories and photographs to cherish the journey. But what if the train that you take at that particular instance for that particular journey happens to turn into a wreck and you are the lone survivor.

We don’t pick up broken pieces for keeps, do we? Rather forget that it ever happened and thank the heavens that you made it through.

But memories, the very good ones and the very bad ones, haunt us and remind us that life is an ever continuing process built on our past progressing towards the future.

We never choose to keep bad memories.

But emotions of remorse, guilt and pain always follow.

Some embrace it, some ignore it.

The content here on my blog may be heavy for someone who likes a light read.

It takes too much time and pride.

The other story is when someone is filled with grief for what has unknowingly happened but there is no one at the other end willing to accept an apology.

Some push the lines of self-respect without realizing that it’s just their ego acting up.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a train wreck or an accident. Doesn’t matter if the decision you thought was right turned out to be horribly wrong. It doesn’t matter if you repent or not. What matters is your acknowledgement of the fact that after action follows consequence and a new story begins after that full stop.