What they should have been..

You came to me like the pleasant wind in the night sky

Like the smell of rain and the presence of leaves swaying by

And in no less than the tick of the clock, the facade wore off

The masquerade peeled to reveal the thunderous skies in darkest times

You came like a storm and left behind a wreck of pieces lost to time

A reminder of what they could've been and what they should have been

Catch a Dream!

I'm not the type who fancies dream or maybe dreams don't fancy me. Not that I have ever cared so much. I haven't dreamt of anything in a while until lately. That's mostly 'cause by the time I hit the sack I am so tired my mind concentrates more on sleeping than dreaming.

What typically happens with most of us is that we usually forget our dreams or we can't recollect them. Happens with me all the time. I barely bother with my dreams. They are absurd at times and sometimes so real. I barely ever have given them a thought expect today when I read my fortune for the day (lame, I know) that advised me I should pay more attention to my dreams which caught me off guard 'cause I really don't dream that often.

Each dream has an interpretation to it. The study of dreams is known as oneirology and there is a lot of speculation as what they could possibly mean.

Freud has explained that dreams are nothing but manifestations of our most deepest desires and anxieties. Worth giving it a thought, but really, I have dreamt of failing a paper - not exactly my deepest darkest desire. Maybe it meant how much I didn't want to fail that paper. 

So lately I had a dream where I was brought the news of the death of two of my friends, one of them I barely have any contact with. It was quite random to see both of them since I haven't spoken to them in a while. And in the dream I am obviously in shock and distraught. The imagery was so vivid that I actually remember one of them was supposedly pushed off her balcony, why? don't ask me! seriously!


Again I don't see how this is a manifestation of my deeply hidden anxiety or need since I honestly hope that both of them live a long healthy life.

The last thing about the dream I remember is that I was desperately trying to trying to contact someone seeking solace but the phone just kept ringing.

They say every image formed in the sub-conscious part of the brain seems to have a meaning to it. Like if you dream of death it apparently symbolizes material loss or that you are being influenced by negativity. So I read up a few more dream symbols here. I still don't understand what messages my mind has to give me, If you get it, do tell  :)

The Dormant and The Dominant

So I've been closely looking at people these days- couples holding hands, parents, siblings and friends. No two people are the same, so what makes them tick together?

At a boys night-out, why does one outshine the rest and another tries to be the witty clown? Why really good-looking girlfriends secretly envy each other and only pretend to be friends? Why does only one member in a family revolt and becomes a black sheep? Why not the others?

But somehow in the midst of every emotion and experience we always find certain people who are inseparable without each other. Like Lauren and Hardy, Lily and Marshal, Tin Tin and Snowy the dog to name a few fictitious personalities.  No really, you will find people who just meet and hit off instantly.

When they say 'opposites attract', does it mean something? Can two like minded people really get along? I'm sure similar mindset would work for an office group or certain circle of friends but when in comes to long-lasting bonds, I somehow feel that we all need a bit of friction to keep our feet rooted.

I wouldn't really enjoy watching two people Tango without any spark and friction.

I don't know much about psychology but I'd like to think that in every relationship you will find a dormant personality and a dominant one.
Personally, I feel this difference is essential because the whole idea of getting to know someone new and unlike you is really exciting and being with someone who is exactly like you might just bore or frustrate you depending on what personality you are.

The Dominant person is usually egotistic, possessive, sometimes passive-aggressive and apathetic too at times.

The Dormant personality is easy-going, emotional, caring, gets attached easily, selfless, secretive, optimistic and sometimes a loner too. They absolutely detest fights and arguments. 

The Dormant thrives on the support of the other and The Dominant loves it but hates to show it.

Usually, such a relationship is extravagant and beautiful when all communication barriers have been sorted out and difference of opinions overlooked. But sometimes one of the personalities becomes too demanding and relationship gets a bit lop-sided. The Dormant seeks too much attention or Dominant shows too much indifference. When negative qualities of either one of them become too overtly, so much as it starts affecting the other; the relationship then becomes dysfunctional.

Normally personalities that can still somehow stand each other in any circle follow this order:

• Dormant-Dormant
• Dormant-Dominant
• Dominant-Dominant

Its just how in a relation no two people can be 'takers' while it may work when both are 'givers' or when one is 'giver' the other is 'taker'

Choices and Bad Memories

The red pill and blue pill signify the choice between blissful ignorance and painful reality.

But what happens after you make that choice and realize its the wrong one for you. Not everyone can accept ignorance or welcome reality.

It’s hard to say if you can put an experience behind and say “what the hell, its ok” even when its not and you realize the wormhole was actually a one way street, and you can’t go back. You soothe yourself convincingly and think it was nice while it lasted, it was all for the best, yea right, of course it was.

When you take on a journey, you know you are going to take back some memories with you in form of memories and photographs to cherish the journey. But what if the train that you take at that particular instance for that particular journey happens to turn into a wreck and you are the lone survivor.

We don’t pick up broken pieces for keeps, do we? Rather forget that it ever happened and thank the heavens that you made it through.

But memories, the very good ones and the very bad ones, haunt us and remind us that life is an ever continuing process built on our past progressing towards the future.

We never choose to keep bad memories.

But emotions of remorse, guilt and pain always follow.

Some embrace it, some ignore it.

The content here on my blog may be heavy for someone who likes a light read.

It takes too much time and pride.

The other story is when someone is filled with grief for what has unknowingly happened but there is no one at the other end willing to accept an apology.

Some push the lines of self-respect without realizing that it’s just their ego acting up.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a train wreck or an accident. Doesn’t matter if the decision you thought was right turned out to be horribly wrong. It doesn’t matter if you repent or not. What matters is your acknowledgement of the fact that after action follows consequence and a new story begins after that full stop.

Just another post.

Everyone has had this one person who they really connected well with and suddenly its like you never knew them at all. Lot of my readers here might assume its a link they have seen or liked on facebook but its a true fact.

There was a point in your life where not talking to that person would make things seem odd around you.

The words Indispensable and Dependable were synonymous to how you would feel about them and exchanging 50 odd texts a day would be a habitual routine.

Mind you, this person need not be your lover nevertheless you loved them dearly.

Well now all that seems to be lost and all that remains is a phone that refuses to ring with their name on it. 

You long for some news, any indication that would suggest everything is OK. Deep inside you know its not.

I don't want to get dramatic here but the truth is people change and sometimes with them circumstances. The odds are that circumstances changed the way you would look at the whole situation now. Feeling of neglect and betrayal just piles on with it.
Its alright to admit you miss them.

You may have opened the Pandora's box but remember hope comes with it.

Endurable Infidelity ?

So I happened to pick up a book on Greek stories that gloated about their gods, monsters and heroes and I was sort of surprised when I realized that their God of Gods, Zeus, happened to be quite a womaniser and he would chase the women he desired until they sighed and gave up.


Before his marriage to Hera (Queen of Gods, also Goddess of marriage), Zeus consorted with a number of the female Titanes (and his sister Demeter). These liaisons are ordered by Hesiod as follows: (1) Metis (2) Themis (3) Eurynome (4) Demeter (5) Mnemosyne (6) Leto. 

He fathered a number of offspring. And he tried his best to hide his affairs from his wife, Hera, who he loved dearly but nevertheless could not resist the temptation of another woman.

I'm sure by now the guys reading this post have begun to idolize him but seriously, infidelity is not cool.

Well I think I am drifting away from the main theme here. What I really fail to understand is how Goddess Hera put up with such nonsense. Is it really that easy to forgive an unfaithful lover who has no sense of loyalty or dignity towards the partner he himself chose to be with?

It is a different thing all together that the women Zeus had an affair with had to face her wrath since she was an all mighty supreme goddess.

Doesn't help the mortals, does it now?

It really makes me think can someone cite reasons of love and attachment to look over the fact that the lover is least bothered to remain true?

And what would I do if I ever was put in that spot?

What would you do?

Can the emotion of intense love ever take over the misery of immense pain?

Nothing good about a goodbye.

Yes you should consider yourself fortunate enough to have someone worthwhile enough to say goodbye to. Is this what I think? No. Its a stupid line I ripped off the internet. I consider myself to be unlucky that I've had so many who I have been forced to say goodbye to. The parting always hurts. Goodbyes are one of  the most annoying words I have come across till date. Unfortunately I have always been at the giving end of a goodbye, not a nice thing, and some of the closest people haven't given me that chance, they just left.

ANYWAY the point is the person who leaves usually has the cramps of a goodbye only initially, the one who is left behind faces the back and indignantly holds on to the memoirs of the one who is leaving. Its all new dynamics for the one leaving their old city, country and people to come to terms with the novelty of new life, while only stagnancy daunts the one who is left waving.

I'm not only referring to airports here, you know. Its the same when a lover jilts, a friend leaves or someone you have known dearly dies. A goodbye can leave you hollow when you know they aren't coming back. 


Goodbyes hurt when you know your friend like the back of your hand; You have lived and laughed together. Shared infinite secrets.


Damn I hate goodbyes, 'cause I know for a while distance won't let me follow you.

The 10 Year Old Supermodel

Thylane Lena-Rose Blondeau, a French Supermodel, is said to be the next big thing on the fashion circuit. She has an impressive modelling CV and has been modelling since she was 4 years old. Not so impressive?

The thing is Thylane, now only 10, is seen on the Vogue Cover sprawled on leopard print bed spread in a blingy gold dress with high heels caressing animals and posing a $3 million necklace. 

We see kids in movies and commercials; but to see a 10 year old young lady, erm no 10 year old kid actually, posing seductively is sort of disturbing.

I'm sure her parents must be proud for her attaining so much success at such a tender age, but to pretend like nothing is wrong with the way things are going is shocking!

The child is posing in such an outrageous dress, chrissake! she has no cleavage to bare, doesn't that say something?

Thylane is the daughter of former French international football player Patrick Blondeau (right), and Véronika Loubry (left), an actress and television presenter
Mum, Ms Loubry, suggests that such criticism of her daughter's photo-shoots are uncalled for. Speaking with French website jeanmarcmorandini.com, she said, [translated from French]

"These photos are from December! It's quite surprising they resurfaced after 7 months ...  Specifically, the only thing that shocks me about this photo is the necklace she wears, which is 3 million!"

Ms Loubry claims that she ensures her daughter has a typical life for a girl her age.(*cough*)

Such sexualisation of a child who hasn't even reached puberty is creepy and disgusting. I mean what are her parents thinking, I'm no child psychiatrist, but can tell such a lifestyle has harmful repercussions on the kid.

When I checked out her Facebook fan page someone had commented saying "She's too young" (which I'm sure is right in the way it was meant), But some moron commented back saying "it is beautiful, it is ART". Seriously what is wrong with you people! Everything which is disapproved is not Art. 

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2022305/Thylane-Lena-Rose-Blondeau-Shocking-images-10-YEAR-OLD-Vogue-model.html#ixzz1Wn7txZoB

Dance with Me..

Dance has been the known as the expression that portrays stories, emotions and spirituality. This video is one from one of the episodes from SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE.

Every dancer on this show has a unique style yet what is more important that just dancing is the emotion you feel while dancing and how it touches of the million people watching. And this trend is not only prominent abroad.Why do you think in India too there are so many dance based reality shows?

India of all countries gives so much importance to music and dance. The biggest example would be our own movies that incorporate so much of singing in the woods and dancing with the trees.

We all know dance has numerous forms and styles from Hip-Hop to Contemporary; from Ballroom to Kathak, dance is something that touches everyone but not everyone can dance uninhibited and freely and hence dance which is an art becomes restrained.

I rememberer, as kids we have danced mindlessly on so many occasions, so happy and blissfully unaware and now I guess we think twice to just jump around (knowing how to dance is different thing all together) on any given occasion. Adulthood has probably restricted us in many ways.

Dance has found its way in religion, theatre, entertainment and social interaction. People choose dancing as a healthy way to tone themselves over gyms. I am too very passionate about dancing and I have taken a few lessons on ballroom. For many like me dancing is something that completely frees them.

A year back I attended this concert "Fastest Feet in Rhythm" Tata Theatre at NCPA. It Featured Pandit Chitresh Das, Jason Samuels Smith, Dormeishia Sumbry-Edwards and nine members of the Chitresh Das Dance Company and I witnessed an explosive collaboration between one of India’s foremost Kathak masters and one of the world’s fastest, Emmy-award winning tap dancers.

This concert happens every year and you must pre-book tickets if you wish not to miss the show. It was a delight to see both Pt. Chitresh Das perform Kathak and Jason Samuels tap dance later followed by their Jugalbandhi.

If you guys have a little bit of interest in dancing you must definitely join classes like Sandip Soparrkars, Terence Lewis Academy or DanceWorx.

Sandip Soparrkars

Website: www.ballroomindia.com 

DanceWorx

Website: www.thedanceworx.com

Terence Lewis Academy
Website: www.terencelewis.com

Places I Love!

Apart from the writing I am a big foodie and i love to travel.
 As much as I keep roaming around Bombay, I recommend places you must visit to indulge in good food that wont really burn a hole in your pocket..

Andheri

 Fine Dining @ Grillopolis.

I'm not a big fan of Andheri and seldom do i even want to travel to that place. But i heard a lot of good reviews about Grillopolis and i had to visit it atleast once.

And well, it was worth every penny.
I simply loved the food here. The ambiance is grand and warm. The service is good. I would suggest you to skip breakfast and come here cause you won't have the appetite for more food till the next day. I tried the lunch buffet on a Saturday; It was simply splendid. 750 Rs per head isn't bad at all for Mineral Water-Wine-Starters-Main Course-Dessert package.



Let Your Hair Down @ Some Like It Hot...

Not everyone likes to be at a place where you have to be prim and proper. Sometimes you just want to chill, sit down and have a drink or two with friends. Some Like It Hot is the perfect place to unwind.
It is owned by the same management as Urban Tadka, Masala Mantar and Pop Tate's

They have Happy Hours starting in the afternoon till 7 in the evening on any type of drink be it cocktails or some green apple.
Its a bit of a task to get to four bungalows in Andheri but i think you can manage.

The staff is friendly and food is good. Must try the Barbeque Chicken Wings.
Damage for two is usually around 500 RS with drinks.

The Queen Of  The 'Burbs.

Of course I'm talking about Bandra. You can never go hungry around here. I find it to be the most convenient place to hang out if I am bored. If you are broke, you have Mc Donalds, KFC, Bembos and blah blah. If you're not well the list is endless.

My personal favorites...

Fine Dining @ Barbeque Nation

As the name suggests this place is meant for barbequed and grilled food. So appetizing and palatable. Its quite similar to Grillopolis,  nevertheless eating here is a delight.


Located on Pali Hill, they too serve lunch dinner and buffet. It is known for its DIY barbeque table where starters are served. Staff is friendly but service suffers during the weekend as a lot of  people frequent here.

Monday to Saturday Lunch: Rs.482 for veg & Rs.536 for non-veg
Sunday Lunch: Rs.643 for veg & Rs.697 for non-veg
Monday to Thursday Dinner: Rs.590 for veg & Rs.643 for non-veg
Friday to Sunday Dinner: Rs.643 for veg & Rs.697 for non-veg


Classy Evening @ Out Of The Blue.

Out of the blue is known for its romantic candle lit ambiance, a perfect date spot. Food served here is Continental, European, Sizzlers, Lebanese & Italian. Their desserts are to die for. Wednesdays they have a women-special-lunch buffet which is very reasonably priced. The average bill for two comes up to 1200 RS.

Chill @ Candies

Candies has 3 outlets and all 3 are in Bandra. Its a self service eatery that serves Continental, Fastfood, Brownies, Cakes, Coffee, Desserts, Snacks, Tea, Chinese, Burger, Sandwich, Rolls, Biryani, Salads.
Everything here tastes good.

The largest and the most popular Candies is at Pali Hill. Must give you a heads-up, the food gets over quite fast on any given day so if you plan to drop by be sure its before 8pm.


Watch this space and i shall update you with more places I LOVE.

Nothing Without You

I am the veins beneath your flesh;

I am also the blood that flows through them.

I am your vision;

I am what you see and what you seek.

I am your heartbeat; I am also your impulse.

I am your sarcasm and sagacity.

I am your every memory, thought and conscience.

I am your observation; I am your deliberation.

I am your hope; I am what you dream.

I am your achievement and consequence.

I alter you; I change your ways.

I am your freedom.

I imprison you but I am also your slave.

I love you but I am what you love.

You need me as I have needed you.

I am  your touch;

But I can’t help but feel the same

I am your everything;

Yet I am nothing without you…

Not Today, Not Now

Scared to be alone

Afraid to be this way

You were here for me then 

But not today, not now she said

I’m here for you, my girl he said

I’ll be there everyday and every time

I’m here to take the pain

Don’t worry; we’ll be just fine

She tried to walk away

But he held her hand

Her thoughts in disarray 

Made her weak in the end

 She tried to understand

Why then no one understood her?

She needed someone to care

Needed him to be always there

 But he doesn’t have the time

Not today, not now she said

 She would stare at void spaces

Cry to the pillow every night

I would have spoken a little longer

He had called to say goodnight

I am little tired

So not today, not now he said

 She felt lost and lonesome

In a world she could never own

Later he called again

To say he loved her

To say he was there

And how much he missed her

"Say you love me too honey

Say you’re mine"

"Can’t say I love you, she said

'Cause your never there

Can’t say I missed you

I’m so used to you not being here

I can’t love you anymore

Not today, not now." she said.

Stranger in the Mirror

Faith so unnerved

A soul so lost

So where do you stand

When even the angels cry

What stirs your sanity

When the pain is mine

Tell me your dreams

Tell me what you hide

Even the puppet mimics

Every face disguised

The faith is dead

But that faith is mine

There is a wound so deep

And a scar unseen

So tell me what hurts the most

And tell me your disguise

For I’m the stranger in the mirror

Someone you failed to recognize.

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